Death sucks

[dr_tectonic]

So my Dad passed away this morning. Apparently, he was on a business trip in Ohio and had a heart attack at breakfast and died.

Which sucks. We didn't always get along fantastically, but I love him.

So I'm sad, and I'm probably be sad for a while. I expect that we'll also have some depression, mourning, grief-stricken, and meleancholy to go with the just plain sad over the next few days.

I'm doing okay. Well, except when I get Annie Lennox's "The Saddest Song I've Got" stuck in my head.

Now I'm heading off to be with my step-mom and siblings on that side for a while. If I'm not online for a bit, see my post of a week ago when a college friend died.

*sigh* This whole 'death' thing, I think it was a bad idea.

Comments

[ng-nighthawk.livejournal.com]

I'm really sorry to hear that. You and your family will be in my prayers.

[dr-tectonic.livejournal.com]

Thanks, Neal.

[arcticturtle.livejournal.com]

Oh, God, beemer. I'm sorry. (hug)

[dr-tectonic.livejournal.com]

Thanks, Rebar. Or is it Catherine? Heck, I'll take a hug from both of you.

[dizzi-d.livejournal.com]

Wow. :/

Everything sounds trite at times like this.

I hate not having anything better than "I'm so sorry" to offer. But... I'm so sorry.

[dr-tectonic.livejournal.com]

You don't need to offer anything else; it does the job quite well. Thanks, Chris.

[iamthequarry.livejournal.com]

*BIG BEAR HUG from someone you don't really know*

I am sorry to hear about your loss.

My dad and I were not close at all -- of the 21 years he was in my life, I hold one single good memory of him -- but when he died suddenly of cancer no one knew he had, it kinda screwed me up a bit. I think I'm still dealing with some of those emotions 4 years later.

As you know, it won't be an easy time. But remember to cherish the good times you shared. And most importantly, remember to take time out to breath from time to time.

[dr-tectonic.livejournal.com]

Thanks. I'm finding I can grieve for a while, and then I need to take a break...

[lovecarnievan.livejournal.com]

Man, Beemer, that's terrible. I'm so sorry. We'll keep your dad in our thoughts, and let the boys know that if they need anything (you, too) while you are gone they can give us a call.

[dr-tectonic.livejournal.com]

Thank you. We'll probably take you up on it at some point.

[derbiser.livejournal.com]

Woobah. Let us know if we can do anything for you. We'll be thinking of you.

[dr-tectonic.livejournal.com]

Thanks. I will let you know.

[djmrswhite.livejournal.com]

sorry for your loss...

[dr-tectonic.livejournal.com]

Thanks, man. I appreciate it.

[jennsteele.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry. You might experience anger as well. Losing a parent is incredibly hard.

[dr-tectonic.livejournal.com]

Thanks. I think I skipped right over denial, bargaining, and anger, but I'll keep an eye out for them just in case. =)

(That's a weak smiley, by the way -- I think I'm starting to master being amused in the midst of being sad.)

[drdeleto.livejournal.com]

Ouch. Beemer, I'm so sorry. When my dad had his heart attack, I dreaded the idea that he might just be gone without me getting another minute to be with him and speak to him. The suddenness of this sounds just awful. I hope your family finds comfort in your memory of him and in each other. The Floyd Family will be thinking about you and praying for you. Let us know if there's anything we can do... Meals for a hectic week, drive anyone around, or just an unwind session.

[dr-tectonic.livejournal.com]

Yeah, the suddenness of it sucks, but at least the last things we said to one another were "I love you, see you at Thanksgiving".

We've got gajillions of family going on. I will probably take you up on the unwinding offer sometime...

[toosuto.livejournal.com]

We too our thinking about you guys.

[toosuto.livejournal.com]

"are thinking"

I am not thinking about proof reading apparently.

[dr-tectonic.livejournal.com]

Well, now that he's gone, the issues don't really matter anymore, so I was able to let them go pretty easily. I think, anyway. Thanks for the thoughts.

[zalena.livejournal.com]

Beemer, I'm so sorry. Please accept both my sympathy and my offer of any assistance I can provide. My immediate impulse is to send books, or to bake a casserole. Please let me know if you or the guys need anything. Broomfield is not too far away.

[dr-tectonic.livejournal.com]

Thanks, Sarah. I may well take you up on your impulse; I'll let you know once my brain is a bit more together. We don't see enough of you anyway, so it'd be nice.

[backrubbear.livejournal.com]

:-(

[dr-tectonic.livejournal.com]

*insert smiley for appreciative nod*

[rlegters.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry to hear this. Take care, and be well.

[dr-tectonic.livejournal.com]

Thank you. I will.

[melted-snowball.livejournal.com]

Oh, that's so horrible. I'm very sorry to hear it.

I hope you have a chance to revisit all of your good memories of your dad in the time that is to come.

*hug*

[dr-tectonic.livejournal.com]

Thank you. I believe I will. *hug back*

[dcseain.livejournal.com]

Deepest sympathy. I remember when mine passed; it sucks. *Hug*

[dr-tectonic.livejournal.com]

Thanks. I appreciate it.

[eto-theipi.livejournal.com]

I'm really sorry to hear that. *hug*

[dr-tectonic.livejournal.com]

Thanks, Death. *return hug*

[thetarnishedowl.livejournal.com]

Oh, I'm so sorry Beemer. Take good care of yourself.

[dr-tectonic.livejournal.com]

Thank you, Bruce. You too, eh?

[ocschwar.livejournal.com]

Damn, that sucks. My condolences, dude.

[dr-tectonic.livejournal.com]

Yeah, it does. Thanks, bro.

[bryree.livejournal.com]

So sorry, Beemer. My deepest sympathies.

[dr-tectonic.livejournal.com]

Thank you, Bryree. The sympathies are doing a lot.

[k8cre8.livejournal.com]

How terrible. Much woobah and chocolate cake from Iowa. I'll be thinking of you, and keeping you and your family in my prayers.

[dr-tectonic.livejournal.com]

Thank you. Chocolate woobah is even better than regular woobah.

[da-lj.livejournal.com]

*hug across the ether*

Keeping you, and your family, in my thoughts.

[jofish22.livejournal.com]

Sorry to hear that, Beemer. That's hard. Thinking of you.
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[detailbear.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry. A parent dying is never easy, neither is unexpected death. HUGS.

[dr-tectonic.livejournal.com]

Thank you. I thought I had called a moratorium on unexpected deaths, but I guess the universe hasn't gotten the memo yet.
*Return hug*

[bats22.livejournal.com]

You have my deepest sympathies, Beemer. Please take care of yourself.

[dr-tectonic.livejournal.com]

Thanks, Bats. I will and I am.

[pekmez.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry, Beemer...

[dr-tectonic.livejournal.com]

Thanks, pekmez. (You do keep your name off LJ, right?)